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If you’re not actively knocking things off your to-do list, you’re at least thinking about all the things you have to get done. That about sums up a day in the life of a Mum, right?
All that emotional labour takes its toll unless we take some time out to replenish our own energy stores so that we can be the best version of Mum, wife and woman that we want to be. The problem though, is finding time for ourselves.
Over the past few years I have found a few little tricks to finding time to myself out of necessity (or out of fear I might otherwise hurt someone!).
Having a routine is the single most important tip I can give you. Putting it all on paper will help you to see what needs to be done, decide what your priorities are and carve out time for the important stuff.
Outsource what you can
I know we’re expected to do it all, but that’s unrealistic and unnecessary. Think about your priorities, your time and energy limits and look at what you can pay someone else to do. For me it’s the cleaning! My priority is time with my family, my health and doing what I love (supporting busy Mums) and cleaning floors and toilets and washing dirty dishes just gets in the way of my life goals. So once a week I have a cleaner come in for 2 hours to help with the floors, bathroom and kitchen just to take the edge off.
They say it takes a village to raise a child but it takes a village to raise a Mum too! Don’t worry if you’re feeling isolated right now, we’ll work on that together. Having support not only means adult conversation, but someone who could possibly make sure your children don’t damage something or hurt themselves while you soak in a hot bath or catch up with a friend for a cuppa.
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Make a commitment to yourself
Succeeding at anything in life requires you to make a serious commitment to yourself. Ditch the dreaded Mum guilt, drown out other people’s opinions with the sounds of positive self talk and make the decision to treat yourself like you would treat a friend or partner. Commit to taking small steps everyday and carving out the lifestyle you want to live. It won’t always happen the way you plan or the way you want it to, but taking daily action will help to build toward your goals.
What sort of things do you like doing during your child-free ‘me time’? Drop a comment below and let me know!
Lea Sharp is a content creator and hot mess Mum in Brisbane, QLD. As a tired Mum of 3, Lea is a passionate advocate for maternal mental health and helps like-minded Mums make life that little bit easier through The Cold Coffee Tribe, a lifestyle website for everyday Mums.